Hello blogging World!
My name is Jenni. I am a wife to the best guy ever & the mother of two beautiful girls! Together with my husband we are lucky to have a beautiful life with amazing family who always have our backs. I am somebody that I’d consider to be fortunate & for that I am very grateful.
Did you know that fortunate people also have struggles? Did you know that sometimes the people who you’d never guess have any problems or “things” actually do?
I grew up assuming that if somebody looked or seemed good from the outside then hakuna matata. But overtime I’ve learned that it’s not always that simple. I’ve also learned that it’s actually ok if everything isn’t as perfect as it seems because it means we are living through something that is intended to make us stronger.
So do you want me to get on with it? Do you want to know my “thing?” Probably not, but I’m going to share them anyways. I’m hoping that by sharing mine I might be able to help others with their own, especially if you are somebody affected by adoption.
Here it is…I was adopted at birth and I was both grateful & conflicted about that my entire life. I unconditionally love my parents & are so thankful for them and for my great life, and all the while I always had a deep desire to know my birth mom and biological family too. Thanks to Ancestry DNA that was finally made possible last year. That process was pretty tough but also pretty worth it.
Once I shared my reunion on my personal Instagram account I was flooded with questions from many people with questions all across the board. I was surprised to receive such a response and I couldn’t help but feel like it was time for me to share my whole story.
I’ve always felt like I have a lot to say about being adopted but I was never quite sure where to express it and that’s why I decided to start this blog, so that I could finally channel it into one place. I hope it will be beneficial for other people to read about them. Especially if you are part of this big beautiful and also pretty complicated ride called ADOPTION.
Not only will I be sharing my story but I truly hope that this blog will turn into a place that others will share their stories too. Adoption is tricky to discuss because every journey is so different, every emotion is so real and there are so many ways someone can offend somebody else by talking about it.
I hope to make that discussion easier by being vulnerable & sharing some pretty raw feelings and experiences I’ve had thus far in my life.
If you are:
- a birth mom or biological family member
- adoptive parents or family member
- an adoptee
- person or couple hoping to adopt
Please click on CONTACT to share your story with me, I would love to share it! Being able to share stories, experiences, reunions, challenges & triumphs, whether it be anonymous or not could help other people navigate their own adoption journey or help people who want to know more about adoption.
To read more about my adopted ride click MY RIDE for more info.
Thanks for reading… let the ride begin…
Love, Jenni
Nice, Jenni. I am waiting to read more and I will contact you with my story which you ate welcome to share. Love you, sweet cousin.
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I’m excited to share your story too Holly! Love ya longtime!
Jenni, when subscribing, the “I am not a robot” verification isn’t working.
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Dang it! I’m sorry holly. I’m trying to figure that out. Same thing happened to my husband, but for me it’s worked. I will try and get it fixed asap!
Hi Jenny! Thanks for sharing your story! When our oldest daughter was 17 years old she became involved in an abusive relationship and became pregnant. We had no experience with something like this and counseled our daughter to get as much information as she could while she decided what she would do with her baby. We only offered our opinions when she asked for them because we wanted such an important decision to be her’s. Because we were members of the Church of Jesus Christ of latter-day Saints we suggested she speak with LDS social services which she did. They gave her lots of information regarding keeping her baby, or placing it for adoption. She knew she was not in a position to provide and care for an infant and made the extremely difficult decision to place her baby for adoption. During this time period, we were all very prayerful as my daughter was given letters from anxious couples wanting to adopt written to mothers considering placing their babies for adoption. She would read them first and then ask us to read them and together we would pray about the perspective couple. After reading many, without each other knowing…We all picked the same couple that we felt the best about! We know that was the hand of the Lord making the impossible decision for her/us!
This situation has come full circle and her son that she placed for adoption wanted to get acquainted with his birth mother/family a few years ago. He is a wonderful young man and has good parents who have treated him well and taught him well. We know his life is better than it would have been with an abusive father in his life. He loves his birth family and makes regular visits and participates in many family functions with us including family pictures. He is very close to his adoptive father, and we are so grateful for him to have this close relationship that he likely would have missed out on if he had not been placed for adoption. Placing him for adoption was the most difficult thing our family has ever done, but now that we have witnessed it full circle we know that it was the best thing for him at the time.
I know he had unsettled feelings about being adopted as well, but maturity helps us all to see things through different eyes. I hope that reconnecting with your birth mother helped you to resolve most of your unsettled feelings and realize how blessed you are to have two mothers who love you so much!
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Hey! Thanks for commenting and sharing something so personal. There is always somebody devastated by adoption as you and your family have experienced but there is so much good that comes from it as well. I’m so happy that your family gets to be connected to that boy now. Time and maturity definitely helps the healing and understanding! If you or your daughter are interested in sharing that on my blog I’d be happy to do so. If you are interested send me a message on the contact page & I’ll be in touch!
Love you Arlene!