Hey all. I am Jenni – the writer and adoptee here. And it has been a minute…. or two… it’s been a lot of minutes. Life got busy and I haven’t kept up on this…
When someone I know dies they’re forever stamped as that age in my mind. Is that normal?I have no idea, but it’s how it’s always been for me. Which is probably why my birth mom…
Feeling like someone’s greatest mistake & someone’s greatest blessing is partly what has always made Mothers Day heavy for myself. To feel that burden, that pressure & that separation all together is a heavy load.
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, I had a plethora of these big and small unknown expectations that had built up within me over the years. But let’s be honest how could I not have them within a closed adoption? I spent 26 years imagining what life could look like if I was reunited. That’s a lot of years of what if’s. The problem was... trying to let go of expectations. Have you tried it? Man, it is super hard!
Currently doing our best to navigate all that comes with reuniting. It’s a whole new way of life which is great but like adoption in general - doesn’t come without it’s challenges too. BUT I’m much more than just an adoptee & too often over the years I’ve failed to recognize the importance of that.
Hey all. This is me with my 3rd cousin KIM. AKA one of the first pieces to my missing puzzle. Finding him was a bit like striking gold… I am listed as Kim’s 3rd cousin…
Sending in my DNA kit & getting the results back went a little like this…… Ancestry received my DNA kit Wed 5/9/2018 Then I waited. The anticipation of waiting for my DNA kit to process…
In 2018 I decided it was time to search for my birth family…. again. Why again? Well you see in 2013 at 23 years old I finally felt it was time to search for my…
Have you ever felt like nobody’s own? If you have you might be adopted. If you’ve ever felt like a burden – You might be adopted. If you’ve ever felt like a waste of space…
Ohhh Mother’s Day I feel you coming. — For me it’s one of the two hardest days of the year being adopted. The other being my birthday. They are the two days where you celebrate,…
I always wanted to know who my birth mom was. But I had little information about her & had little experience with even knowing how to find someone you don’t know. So as a teenager…
I know that speaking about faith can sometimes be controversial or can feel like someone is trying to force religion on you. That is not my intention, I’m simply going to share something that has…
I often wondered how my birth mom celebrated each holiday. But when it came to Valentine’s Day I wondered a little bit extra. I wondered all the things… Was she loved?Was she celebrating?Did she know…
It’s been a year and seven months since we found my birth parents using AncestryDNA. Making the move to reach out to my birth mom was instantaneous. I couldn’t do it soon enough once figuring…
In a recent email between my (biological) grandpa and I we were discussing my birth mom he asked me this question: Maybe your relationship with her is not yet to the point that you would…
Lately I’ve been recognizing that many adult adoptees are in a place where it’s still dark and always has been, or they have moved out of the darkness and found surrounding light. That does not…
Back in November had to take a little step back from posting. It was my birthday and as normal, birthday week often brings up many emotions for me. Sometimes birthdays are tough not because of…
Nature vs. Nurture For 27 years I’ve & been nurtured.For 1 year & 6 months I’ve been discovering about my nature. I’ve always wondered what parts of me were passed on through genetics and what…
It’s still strange to me that I get to have relationships with people who were once just a fact on a page. I had a closed adoption. So the only information I had about my…
